I have learned…through a great deal of missing the mark and adjusting…that whenever I take the focus off of what is going on inside of me…and direct that focus to another…what is wrong with them…everything gets out of balance…inside of me. It is a high price I pay when I attempt to ditch what I am responsible for…my thoughts, feelings and choices.
It typically goes something like this…someone says or does something, and I notice that I become incredibly anxious or stressed. I don’t want to feel anxious…and I want an immediate solution NOT to feel stressed. So, the guickest path to resolution is to blame the person for their actions and ‘making’ me feel anxious. Well, we all know that nobody can make us feel anything…we have the power…and we can how we will feel in any given situation.
What happens is I will continue to feel anxious and out of balance, until I stop and turn the question inward…where is this anxiety coming from? Sometimes I have to sit with the question for awhile…maybe hours…maybe days…maybe weeks…for it all depends on how willing I am to be honest with myself. Their words or actions were merely a catalyst for making me aware of an old wound…I say old wound for rarely is it about something in the here and now.
But as I have walked this journey of evolution and awakening, I have noticed that the present continuously offers opportunities to heal the past in the now…as long as I enter the process with a few perspectives. First is mindfulness which is simply another way of saying ‘being present in the now’. Next is curiosity…the ability to wonder…for when we are in wonderment, it is much easier to leave judgement out of the picture completely…. and this is foundational to healing. Finally, to be open. If we want to experience something different, we have to do something different. A common saying in 12-step programs is ‘insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results’ or the proverbial beating our head against the wall.
Consequently, taking each situation as an opportunity to learn something about myself becomes a magical and transformative process.
I give myself the opportunity to identify and release patterns that no longer serve me. I give myself the opportunity to experience a whole new level of self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-love. I become proficient at self-regulating my emotions…of addressing the source of the anxiety…. as well as steps to alleviate the anxiety. I believe that each of us have…within us…the answers to whatever questions we have. It is simply a matter of tapping into that innate wisdom…our higher self…Great Spirit…Universal Consciousness…God within…or whatever name you choose. Remember, this is your journey, and you are creating your reality>>>> with every thought, feeling and choice. You get to decide how you want to respond…this is where your personal freedom and personal power lie.
What did you learn about yourself today? How has your life changed? What is different now? Do you feel an increased vibration of love, joy, grace, or peace? Do you have more to explore about this experience, thought or feeling? Do you feel closer to your authentic self. Do you feel empowered? My wish for you? Whatever the day brings, anchor yourself in the now and embrace the beautiful you. The journey is uniquely yours…you are writing the script…you are telling the story…trust the journey…trust yourself…for you matter.
From my heart to yours,
Dayton ~ the holistic wellness coach